Self-compassion Week 1

“Self-compassion is simply giving yourself the same kindness that you would give to a friend.”

-Christopher Germer, a clinical psychologist and author specializing in self-compassion. 

Think of a time when you were there for a good friend. Maybe you listened, or offered to help them, or sat with them during a difficult time or supported them in another way. How did that make you feel? How did it make your friend feel? Now, consider yourself, when you are faced with a hardship, loss or illness, do you treat yourself, as you would your dear friend?  If your friend reported these feelings, how would you support them?  Remember that you are your best friend. Adapt your attitude and show kindness and compassion to yourself, supporting yourself.  

For some of us, this may sound easier said than done. If that is what you are thinking, start with the smallest of steps. Just notice when you are treating yourself with negativity. Maybe pause, and ask yourself, why am I doing this? Will it make me feel better or worse? Then think of the time you supported your friend, what did you do?

Do the same thing for yourself, treating yourself as you would a good friend.